Abafazi abo lumisiwe sithande ukuba ungabelana ngantoni oko kwenzeka emva kokuba loomama lezempilo

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Kuba phantse nesiqingatha abafazi abo bafudukela ngaphandle uthando, ngu-hayi kakhulu, ngokunxulumene omtsha uphandoEkhaya, abantu baba udliwano-ndlebe ukufumana phandle zingaphi kubo baba bafudukela yi-zabo budlelwane kwaye oko kwenzeka elandelayo. Icace phandle ukuba uyise komnye ebalulekileyo umntu ngakumbi ngokufanayo kunokuba ucinga.

Phantse omnye kwi-ezintlanu abaphenduli kusini na ekubeni a budlelwane kwaye ukushukumisa wesithathu abo baye ngoko ke ngaphezu kwakanye.

Abafazi axela ukuba babeza ngocoselelo ngakumbi sifuna ukwenza inkqubela-phambili kunokuba abantu. Emva tshintsha, ishumi elinesibhozo ipesenti wathi ukuba utshintshe ayikwazanga ukuvula zabo rocky budlelwane, ishumi elinesixhenxe ipesenti liked yabo entsha imeko, kwaye elinanye ipesenti nkqu wawa ngothando kunye umntu ongomnye.

Emva zonke, ngu malunga ukwazi apho yakho anokubakho ngala."Eyona nto iya kwenza kum, yiya, lona uthando,"athi,"Ingozi."Kwi-ubomi bam, andiqondi ukuba loo msebenzi a ukutya isizathu yiya indawo apho budlelwane nabanye ingamisela apho ndikhona.

Ngamanye amazwi, shameless, nokuba ufuna ukusa kuba uthando, nokuba imisebenzi okanye hayi. Thina wathetha kakhulu phambi, ngethuba, kwaye emva ukuba uqinisekise ukuba yam ngase waba nje omnye entsha ngeposi, njengoko kwakunjalo naye. Oku kwaba ezilungileyo, ngenxa yokuba kwiminyaka embalwa kamva thina waba abahlobo. Kodwa mna ngxi bathanda Pacific Umntlantshona, abahlobo, njl-njl ukusa jikelele ehlabathini.

Yena bayilibala ukuthi ukuba umntu ongomnye wayibona.

Zingaphelanga iinyanga ezine. Yena onayo kude kube ixesha elithile. Wam kuphela icebiso: MUSA tshintsha umlingane wakho."Umyeni wam mna batshata kodwa abahlala kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo i-american izixeko xa lowo ufumene umsebenzi kwi-Rwanda. Wafuduka ngaphandle, kwaye inyanga kamva ndalandela kuye, eshiya phupha lam umsebenzi.

I-hambisa wakhokela kum kuba obandakanyekayo kwi-wefilim ishishini isigxina, kwaye nangona mna ke kakhulu worried malunga ukufumana umsebenzi, yonke into waya kakhulu ngcono kunokuba mna elindelekileyo.

Kwiminyaka emihlanu kamva, kwaye ndiza ngxi ukuqhuba ishishini lam isigxina. Kokuba usapho apha ukuba andiyenzanga nokwazi malunga. Ngethamsanqa, bazalwana incredible distant usapho bandinceda bangene oku apartment xa sifuna waphula phezulu. Wam luncedo kukuba ungqinelwano amandla ngqo leans ngakulo iqabane lakho kunye elikhulu kunyaka-mali ukhuseleko kunye noqhagamshelwano kwisixeko (shawari, ndicinga). Kodwa andiqondi regret uyise, ngenene. Emva kokuba mna washiyeka yedwa kwakhona, mna kwafuneka cultivate ezininzi ukuzimela kwaye maturity. Ndazenza xa ndandisele a kid. Inika kum creeps ucinga ukuba ntombi yam yaye oko. Ngelo xesha, mna bafudukela ukusuka Boston ukuba Los Angeles ne boyfriend yam.

Andizange waphila happily naye, kodwa lowo ube sowuzinzile kum kwaye umyeni wam kwi-Los Angeles, kwaye emva kweminyaka emihlanu mna bafudukela apho.

Mna bafudukela kunye a guy ukusuka Pittsburgh-wonke boarding esikolweni Nefiladelfi. Andiyenzanga siyazi ukuba umphefumlo ngowamashumi Mna kuba zange wahlala Nefiladelfi, okanye nkqu watyelela ngayo ngaphezu kabini. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ingaba umsebenzi ulinde mna. Ukujonga emva, ke zonke na icimile balwe. Kwangoko iminyaka baba nzima. Ndifuna ukufumana watshata, kodwa andiyenzanga, ngoko ke sithi, babebaninzi limbo.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba becinga malunga lo mzuzu, kodwa isiphelo kwaba umngcipheko ukuba isebenza.

Similiselwe watshata kuba ubudala kwaye ingaba u-abantwana. Mna graduated ukusuka phezulu esikolweni kwezintandathu emva koko wafudukela ukusuka Iowa, Colorado, abe kufutshane a guy ndandidibana kwi-Mexico kwi entlakohlaza ukuwaphula. Ndabaxelela wonke umntu abo bafuna ukuva ukuba yam ngase kokuba nto ukwenza kunye boy (kuquka kuye). Mna ke unemployed, kunye akukho prospects, akukho ndawo ukuze siphile, kwaye malunga ezintandathu anamashumi dollazi wam pocket. Silifumene watshata kwaye baya kuba beautiful omnye-yeminyaka ubudala nentombi. Ndandidibana a boy e Yahoo Personals xa mna akusebenzi ukuba kusetyenziswa i-intanethi Dating, kwaye wafuduka ukusuka Florida ukuba Raleigh. Sitshatile ye- ubudala kwaye ingaba u-abantwana.

Ndaqonda ukuba kwaba kukunceda kakhulu risking into seemed andwebileyo wonke umntu ongomnye.

Mna bafudukela zonke phezu kweli lizwe kuba budlelwane

Ukongeza, oko unako rhoqo yiya kwakhona.

Mna bafudukela mbombo zone zeli kwaye washiya career mna wayemthanda kunye umyeni wam, i career soldier, nje iinyanga ezimbalwa emva zethu wedding.

Ke sele ngonyaka kwaye ndiza ngxi ukuzama nani ngayo ngaphandle, kodwa mna anayithathela wafunda kakhulu malunga ngokwam kwaye wam budlelwane nabanye. Kwaba ngonyaka ka-ukuqonda, orhwebo, ukwamkelwa, ukufunda, kwaye zikhula phezulu. Nam a ezimbalwa kwiinyanga ezintandathu kamva, ngenxa yokuba mna apparently liked ngayo xa ndandisele kakhulu kude ukubona kwayo yithi rhoqo. Kodwa washiya ixesha elide eyadlulayo, xa ndiya kuphila kwakhona apha kwaye siyamthanda.

Ndicinga ukuba anayithathela ekugqibeleni onayo eyona ye-badgers.

Mna bafudukela apha ukususela Epennsylvania, California. Sasivuya kunye ishumi elinesihlanu leminyaka, ifumene watshata zilithoba, zilishumi kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, kwaye mna, wazisa kuye ukuba Epennsylvania, kakhulu. Ubomi umngcipheko, kwaye xa mna thabathani, ndinguye ndonwabe, ndingacingi regret kuyo. Mna anayithathela besiya Norfolk, Virginia, apho ndiya anayithathela zange sele, kwi ubudlelane ke ngxi kakhulu omtsha, kodwa kakhulu ngamandla ezinzima. Thina waphula phezulu emva kweenyanga ndathola indlu. Ndinguye ngoku uthengisa ke, kwiminyaka emithathu kamva thina bought ngayo, kunye ilahleko enkulu.

Mna Ndagqiba kwelokuba yiya ecosta Rica ukuba abe neqabane lam u-yeminyaka ubudala boyfriend.

Mna ndawufumana waba watshata kwiiveki ezimbini emva kokuba mna ifike.

Mna ke abahlala Park city, Utah, kwaye mna wabona lencwadi ithi phezulu tourist kwi bar.

Waphila kwi-Cleveland, kodwa thina bafunda ukuba yena ukhulele e-Indiana. Thina uvale i-bar kwaye wachitha elandelayo emva kweminyaka emibini kwi-Skype, Ubuso phinda-Phinda, kwaye flying jikelele kweli lizwe de sibe reluctantly uyesu, lowo besiya Cleveland. Silifumene watshata, bafunda ukuthanda Eohio, kwaye siya kuba baby. Waza ke likhulu umntu mna anayithathela ngonaphakade kuhlangatyezwana nazo. Michaela McKenzie yi freelance journalist specializing kwi-impilo, inkcubeko neteknoloji, yithi rhoqo kwaye kunegalelo ukuba upapasho ezifana Zokuthintela, abafazi ke, Impilo, Imilo, Charm, Abantu ke, impilo, Johns Hopkins impilo Kovavanyo, kwaye abanye. Loomama Impilo lithatha inxaxheba ezahlukeneyo affiliate lentengiso iinkqubo, oko kuthetha ukuba uyakwazi ukufumana editorial commissions ihlawulwe kuba iimveliso ukuthengwa ngokusebenzisa zethu amakhonkco ukuba websites ka-retailers.