Indlela kuhlangana umntu

Amadoda nabafazi ingaba irrevocably attracted ngamnye enye

Kwiiveki ezimbalwa edlulileyo, i-inqaku kwi-McCall newspaper ivulwe kwakhona amathandathu eminyaka eyadlulayo-ukuthathela Internet yi-isichothoUkhim marks-Kuczynski ka-Madison, Wisconsin, kufunyenwe oludala ingxaki ukuba hovered jikelele uthengisa kwaye ukuthenga kuba dollazi. Inqaku, enesihloko"Iindlela ukufumana umyeni,"wanikela nasiphelo"shaky"iindlela ukufumana abantu ke ingqalelo - ukususela sweet ukuba scary kwaye stupid. Imizekelo iquka:"ndicinga ukuba inqaku ubonisa loluntu masiko ngexesha, kwaye ndafumanisa a fascinating uthelekiso phakathi yintoni owamkelekileyo yintoni owamkelekileyo ngoku", Bw Marx-Kuczynski, aka"Boring Panda Kanjalo wenza kwam ukuva ngako oko ke kakhulu inkqubela wenziwe made."Kwaba madala, absurd, kwaye ridiculous, kodwa kokuba akukho ezinzima intentions. Society itshintshe kakhulu kwi-yokugqibela amathandathu eminyaka, kwaye kweli nqaku, uya kubonisa neeyantlukwano phakathi into yethu oomama kwaye oomawomkhulu wadala ngentlonipho kuba ngokwabo kwaye kusenzelwa izizukulwana ezizayo. Charmingly."I-consensus bethu banamhla era ka-feminism kwaye ngokwesini ngu 'ngaba anayithathela kuza elide indlela, nobusi'."Abafazi ayisasebenzi kufuneka ngokuthula isikhalo kwi-yembombo okanye sikhubeke e a strategic mzuzu ukuhlangabezana umntu."Ngoku makhe siqwalasele i-inqaku kwi-Huffington Ngeposi, mhlawumbi omnye strongest proponents ka-feminism kwaye ngokwesini. Igqityiwe kunye ishumi, inqaku ngu enesihloko"kuzo iindawo apho abantu kuhlangana Ke sikwi uthetha malunga HuffPo, folks. Ilizwe pink pussies kwi-hats.

Yakhe uluhlu ngu oddly efanayo ukuba McCall uluhlu kwaye recommends ukuba abafazi ukubonisana Golf izifundo, ubusuku izikolo, izifundo, sporting iziganeko, gatherings, kwaye iqela celebrations.

Eneneni, inqaku sele kakhulu ngokufanayo, kuba McCall uluhlu, ndimangazekile ukuba kokuba kufunyenwe ngayo kwiminyaka emibini phambi Bw marks-Kuczynski. Kodwa emva coping kunye konke oku, abafazi abaninzi ingaba emva kwexesha ukwazi ukuba kuya iindleko kwabo imali. Njengoko nkqu progressive HuffPo ibonisa bonisa, uninzi abafazi ekugqibeleni ufuna settle phantsi kunye handsome umntu kwaye nyusa usapho. Kodwa baninzi abafazi ngokulula andazi yintoni ke kufana ukufumana umntu okanye indlela ukugcina kuye kwi-sebenzisa ixesha elide. Ukuba abafazi wachitha kangangoko ixesha kwaye amandla ilungiselela kuba abafazi njengoko baye kwi-zabo careers, babo personal ubomi abe ngokupheleleyo ezahluka-hlukileyo. Ngokungafaniyo naliphi na kwisizukulwana kwimbali,"ubhala Susannah Wiener yayo ezibalaseleyo incwadi"Indlela khetha umyeni","yena waye wafundisa ukuba postpone umtshato kude kube sekupheleni wakhe ubomi."i-engaqinisekanga ngokwe xesha, okanye sukuyinaka ngokupheleleyo, njengoko ukuba umtshato kokuba iingcaphephe ezichaphazelekayo yakhe ulonwabo."Kodwa abantu abaninzi musa ufuna ukuba abe yedwa.

Ukususela ekuqalekeni kwexesha, oku utsalekoname wenziwe lokuqhuba umkhosi ngasemva zethu survival njengohlobo - kwaye nkqu ezi yokugqibela decades kuba phantse rhoqo azisa ubude bexesha umtshato.

Kodwa kwenye indawo ukuya umgca, silifumene ezilahlekileyo."Weener mentions i-vehement-antayi-indoda nomfazi, Pro-ibhinqa rhetoric ukuba ngoko ke, abaninzi progressive abafazi ingaba subjected kwi - kwaye ukuba ke dichotomy kunye HuffPo inqaku."Ukuba HuffPo ke feminist abafundi bamele invited ukuba khwela i company ladder kwaye babonise ukuba bamele enjalo yomelele kwaye linalo igunya abantu, ngoko ke ndimangazekile njani HuffPo justifies i-echo enye kwi-cinezela.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, asingabo bonke abafazi ufuna ukufumana watshata.

Kodwa consciously ukufundisa abafazi ukuba umtshato akufanele omnye wabo ubomi iinjongo kuba uninzi abantu bamele sexist idiots ayiyi kuphela ezingachanekanga, ke embi:"Uninzi abantu bakho, kokukhona beautiful kunokuba ucinga,"izikhumbuzo Venier."Kwaye uninzi kubo engekho phantsi threat ukusuka umfazi ngamandla.

Yena kuphela nokukhathalela izinto ukuba eli gunya isetyenziswa ngokuchasene nabo okanye ngokuchasene umtshato budlelwane."Kwi-okrwelwe ugca ngaphantsi kwi-yoqobo. Entliziyweni yam leentliziyo, mna suspect ukuba progressives uyazi kakuhle kakhulu. Kungenjalo, kutheni maxa HuffPo yongeza isiqulatho uluhlu njani baye kuyo? Njengoko columnist Patty Ann Malley ubeka ngayo,"Amaxesha ngala ukutshintsha."Abantu musa."Enye into ke baninzi abafazi musa ufuna ukuva yindlela kakhulu uxanduva kuba amandla kwaye umanyano womtshato ziphantsi kwi kwabo."Ukuba ngaba musa tshata a rude umfazi,"i-Venier uthi kwi-okrwelwe ugca ngaphantsi,"yintoni ukuzisa ukuba wedding ithebhule uza uninzi kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufumanise elimfiliba yakho umtshato.Ngamanye amazwi, babe uhlobo umfazi ufuna enye. Akukho sane umntu ufuna enye a flashy harridan izimvo zabo kuba fashion ingxelo ziindleko elihle pink hat - ngaphandle kokuba umntu ke enfeebled ukuba yena ngqo akuthethi ukuba ufuna ukufumana watshata. yena akuthethi ukuba cinga ke i-nabafana umgangatho kuba umfazi. I-veneer closure ingcebiso kuba abafazi abo ufuna a ndonwabe umtshato ukuba aphelise ehleli nje uyehova, nokhuphiswano, ukukhuselwa, nyulu trivia ke ngoko, abaninzi yamkelwa abafazi, ngenxa yokuba ucinga lenza kubo ngamandla.Ayithethi ukuba ibenze olomeleleyo, lenza kwabo bangonwabanga kwaye itchy. Itchy abafazi akunjalo, ninoyolo, okanye ingaba abayeni babo (okanye abantwana). Emva zonke, ungakwazi kuwancothula phezulu isibindi ukunikela oku icebiso zonke young abafazi abo bafuna ukuya kuhlangana indoda: kuziphatha na elonyuliweyo, hayi na feminist.

I-unguye ka-ibhinqa amandla ngokuchasene abantu kanjalo unako zithetha a lonely ubomi ozayo.