Njani ukufumana boy ukuba indlela kum

Ngeendlela ezininzi, oku kuthatha ulawulo kude abafazi

Baninzi abafazi ukubhala nam malunga introverts kwaye iingxaki baya yenzaBaya kuhlangana phezulu zabo kunye nabahlobo bakho ukususela clubs kwaye iinkwenkwezi. Yabo abahlobo ingaba bechitha ixesha ebomini kwaye Dating umgangatho guys, kodwa ndiza stuck kwi yembombo besela i-overpriced cocktail kwaye baya musa get ke enye ingqwalasela. Uphendlo kuba uthando yi heartbreaking uhambo, kwaye indawo kawonke-wonke njenge-bar okanye club yi jungle ka-distractions ukuba ngamanye amaxesha get endleleni ekuncedeni. Ezi abafazi ingaba ebalulekileyo yi-phezulu kwaye abaninzi ezifihliweyo qualities, kodwa baya kuba nzima ukufumana ixesha abantu kwi-wonke iindawo, kwi kwimeko non-kokuphazamiseka. Bethu Entshona inkcubeko, kubalulekile ngesiqhelo abantu abathe ukuba indlela umfazi kwiimeko ezinjalo.

Ngoko ke, apho baya musa yaphula phantsi

Oku rhoqo scares abantu, kwaye baya rhoqo iintlungu ukusuka varying amaqondo ka"anxiety indlela". Nangona kunjalo, oku kanjalo name kuba ukuba neentloni abafazi. Impendulo ngu-ilula kwaye ngobuchule. Nkqu ukuba ukho ukuba neentloni, unako ukunika a eshushu kwaye eyobuhlobo umzimba ulwimi. I-famous nzulu zomzimba ulwimi ngexesha Ngezifundo of California wenza zonke unxibelelwano nonverbal. Oku asikuko kakhulu surprising njengoko ulwimi, kwaba yokugqibela ifomu ingxoxo ukuba umntu kwaphuhliswa.

Kukho nzima imisonto kuba decoding ulwimi abanye abantu ke zomzimba kwindawo yokuqala.

Ukuba umntu ikhangeleka threatening okanye ivaliwe, yethu yendalo biological impendulo ngu-ukuphepha kwabo. Bethu abangamadoda ezingqondweni, asingawo nako distinguish i-attitude ukusuka kubekho inkqubela abo babe nje kuba ngaphezulu zolile kwaye agciniwe. Oku technique imisebenzi yakho ukuthandwa enkosi yethu visual, uqhelaniso, sisebenzisa ngathi abantu. Kunika abo imiqondiso ukuba kuya kunceda boy indlela kuwe njengoko lula kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Xa i umdla boy attracts ingqalelo yakho, ncuma, jonga kwi amehlo akhe, kwaye kunika kuye wonke isizathu indlela kuwe. Okwesibini, kwaye oku kumele kungajongelwa phantsi, lokuthengwa kweenkonzo zidlala indima ebalulekileyo. Yena mhlawumbi ufuna zohlulwe ukusuka abahlobo bakhe kuba okomzuzwana. Kwakhona, approaching umfazi kwi bar ngu iselwa scary, kodwa iqela kubo nkqu scarier. Yenza lokuthengwa kweenkonzo njengoko kulula njengoko kunokwenzeka, wena kunye guy. Luluvo olulungileyo ukuya kuyo ngaphaya koko, intsholongwane, kungekude kwi indlela ngasese. Kanjalo, uyakwazi silindele kuye ukuya kwi bar ukuze umntu usele kwaye yiya elandelayo kuwe kuba oda yakho. Ekunciphiseni yesitalato barrier ukuba unxibelelwano nje njengoko kakhulu njengoko umzimba wakhe ulwimi. Ngakumbi, lowo unxulumano ngokwakhe"ukuba neentloni", ngakumbi, lowo abengu mna-ekuzalisekiseni isiprofetho. Njengoko neqabane lakho ukuzonwabisa kwaye ukwakhiwa, abanye umsebenzi uya kuba yimfuneko kwindlela yakho isiqingatha, kodwa iziphumo ziya kufumaneka kwakamsinya. Ixesha elizayo kufuneka badibane nabo, funda indlela ukuzisa abahlobo bakho ukuba forefront. Buza kwabo into isebenza kwaye oko akuthethi khange. Njengoko abantu, sino ukwenza ezoyikekayo ezimnqakathi kwi indlela. Nangona kunjalo, asazi umahluko phakathi ukuba neentloni waza intercepted. Ukuba ukhe ubene ekubeni trouble attracting the guy nisolko anomdla, ncuma, yenza ezininzi iliso uqhagamshelane, kwaye kumnika isizathu sokuba kutheni kufuneka approached kuye. Kwi-i-namanani imeko, omabini uya kuthwala no uxanduva kwaye losapho kuba dibanisa ndibano. Kuphuma kwi street kunye ndiya ukuva izinto ezintsha. Shyness rhoqo ngokulula equlethwe kulo ukoyika. Onikiweyo ukuba vulnerability ngu kwaye rhoqo kuya kuba kakhulu nabafana.