Ntoni Abafazi Ufuna kwi Budlelwane. Umtshato

Mel Gibson, bale mihla pop inkcubeko ulwazi (kulungile, ngoko ke s isn t NGOKO ke bale mihla, kodwa heee, ayo s wam inqaku, ngoko ke ndithi ke bale mihla) coined ibinzana, Oko Abafazi Ufuna, kwaye ngoku ndim oza de-bunk ezinye myths perpetuated in esi-bhanyabhanya, ngokunjalo kuzo zabo ezininzi abantu kuwo iglobhuMel kokuba ezimbalwa insights ukuba ingaba eluncedo ngexesha ulwazi ukuhlanganiswa iqonga a budlelwane, ngoko ke masithi s qala apho.

Xa umfazi ngu kuqala contemplating a ubudlelwane kunye umntu othile, omnye lokuqala izinto yena ufunzele kuba ngu-laughter kunye nodibanisa attitude.

Akukho mfazi ifuna ukuba ube jikelele thabatha Ned kwaye ngoko ke abantu kufuneka ibe keenly ngobukho njani baya kuthetha malunga nabanye abantu, babo ngemini, kwaye nobomi jikelele. Soloko gcina yakhe smiling ngelixa umncinci, nkqu ngcono ngu-gcina yakhe kwi-stitches laughing. Ndiyakholwa Mel waba ukuzama kuba umfazi s eyona umhlobo, oko kunjalo, nayiphi na imiceli, mna-actualized umfazi uza kukuxelela, isn t ufuna ntoni yena ufuna yayo mate. Musa t get kum ezingachanekanga, abafazi ingaba ufuna i-mate ngubani omhle kakhulu umhlobo-omnye banako share hopes, amaphupha, iminqweno, failures, kwaye fantasies nge-kodwa hayi necessarily omnye ukuba baya share yonke ingcinga ndinovelwano okanye utshintsho lwendawo ngokwenqanawaname kunye, ukuba lanto iyayenza. Thina bakholisa ukugcina ukuba uhlobo ka-candor kuba zethu eyona gal pals. Abafazi ufuna zabo mate kuba umntu banako confide kwi-kuba vula, honest, ngaphandle koloyiko yokuba sigwetywe, kananjalo umntu lowo vula entsha iingcinga, iingcamango, kwaye amava (kwaye andinguye nje uthetha malunga kwi-bedroom). Abafazi ufuna a real ndoda-umntu lowo unako uthando kwaye nkqu admire amandla a century zoshishino ezingama, ibhodi intlanganiso abebezimase, uzole ukufumana abantwana ukuba orthodontist kwi xesha, umfazi ka-namhlanje, KWAYE unako rip yakhe vula mere moments kutyhila impish abancinane kubekho inkqubela ukulinda ngomonde ukuba zivela, kwaye ukudlala.

Sifuna umntu lowo uza kuba nomdla, ibe honest ngaphandle ekubeni hurtful, kuba loyal-kwa ukuba babe musa umi kunye yintoni sisebenzisa esithi, baya? inkxaso kwethu.

Xa ndandisele ukuthemba emva kwi dating echibini emva phantse iminyaka, ndafumanisa ngokwam ngokupheleleyo drowning ngendlela yolwandle ka-ufuna ukuba abe ewe-abantu, kakhulu buthathaka ngenxa yam owakhe okulungileyo (zange engqondweni kwezabo) kwaye ayikwazi okanye unwilling kuba ngokwenene honest kunye nabo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo hayi kunye kwezo meko mate. Ndiya kukunika a kwimeko yesi. Mna ke ngomhla omnye ethandwa kakhulu kwi-intanethi dating zephondo, ikhangela ngaphandle owaye wam indawo kummandla, jikelele wam ubudala, kwaye ukukhangela enye into-kwezo meko kuba budlelwane, hayi nje FWB. Ngoko ke, ndinguye chatting kunye ezimbalwa viable candidates, kwiintsuku ezimbalwa izivakalisi okanye ubuninzi ezimbalwa iincoko, baya utyibiliko. Mna ngoko nangoko yiya kwi uphando indlela kwaye ndine ukubona yintoni impendula xa sidibanise yintoni loo nto ebangela ezi nicinge enokwenzeka mates ukuya kwi zinokuphathwa ukuba hayi kwi-phantsi imizuzwana, kwaye unrelenting ngenxa yokuba waba, BATHI abo babefuna a budlelwane, kodwa into yokuba ngenene babefuna wayeza fihla ngasemva ikhompyutha ikhusi, kuba olugqibeleleyo kothile s amehlo, kwaye zange vumelani oko veil kuba lagqobhoza nge inyaniso. Kwaba ngenene kuba nzima kum ukubona lo wam owakhe interactions, kodwa xa mna waqala uthetha nge abafazi, waba nokuninzi gca. Ngoku, ukuba ayikho kuthi WONKE umntu lowo uthi abazithandayo a budlelwane lento uhlobo, kodwa likwenza kuthetha imiqulu njengoko ukuba kutheni ke abantu abaninzi (kwaye ukuba abe elifanelekileyo, abafazi, kakhulu) kwimali ezi dating ziza kuba iminyaka ngaphandle ngonaphakade ngenene ekubeni a true budlelwane. Ndicinga ukuba bonke abafazi ufuna umntu ukuba iqinisekile ngaphandle ekubeni arrogant, honest ngaphandle ekubeni hurtful, ezomeleleyo (hayi nje ukwazi ukukhetha phezulu couch kwaye yiya ngayo, kodwa ngokwenene yaxhobisa olomeleleyo), wenze okulungileyo amaxabiso kwaye morals, kwaphula kwabo vula kwaye azise ngaphandle zabo ngaphakathi umntwana, kwaye ngaphezu kwazo zonke ongomnye, ndiya kwenza yakhe laugh wonke kanye rhoqo ngemini, kwaye rhoqo likhumbuza yakhe njani valued yena.