Njani kakuhle kuhlangana a kubekho inkqubela. Ulawulo psychologist

Ileta yesibini ingathatha linda naphi na, nkqu kwi street

Abantu abaninzi bakhetha umhla girls ababekho kunye nabo ixesha elide ukunciphisa inani iimeko: ngexesha esikolweni, emsebenzini, okanye, umzekelo, kunye neighbors

Olu khetho, kunjalo, unelungelo zikho, kodwa kukholisa enxulumene ne-ingxaki, ushishino Imicimbi awunayo elikhulu nefuthe career, kwaye girlfriend a kubekho inkqubela ayinguwo namanani khetho kuba building nomdla budlelwane.

Ke ngoko, kuya kuba kuluncedo kuba boys ukufunda njani ukuba uqhagamshelane a kubekho inkqubela kwi street.

Psychologists kuthi ukuba obscene entsha acquaintances musa kunokwenzeka.

Ngumsebenzi lowo characterizes ngayo kwindawo yokuqala

Naluphi na ulwazi kuquka iziqalelo ze umdlalo, ngoko ke kufuneka bamthwala ngaphandle ngokunxulumene imigaqo ethile. Abaninzi kulutsha andazi njani begin ukufumana acquainted nge kubekho inkqubela. Uphawu lokuqala ukuba unxibelelwano kunye a stranger kwi street kusenokuba ngempumelelo ngu"i-ngeliso", ngokunjalo a eyobuhlobo kwaye eyobuhlobo intetho. Oku lubonisa ukuba kubekho inkqubela liked i-boy, kwaye yena watsalela ingqalelo kuye.

Kodwa abantu abaninzi ngoku get ezilahlekileyo kwaye nje drive elidlulileyo i-indecisive mosquito.

Oza kuphulukana nayo enjalo ithuba ngu stupid, kufuneka athabathe oko. Ukuba boy ngu ukucinga apho ukufumana girls, ngoko ke nje ushiye indlu. Dating kwi street yi complex kwaye ethembisa ishishini ngexesha elinye, ngenxa girls kusenokuba kuhlangatyezwana nazo apha ngokupheleleyo indlela ezahlukeneyo. Kwazi bani, ka-unxibelelwano bamele ukuba kufuneka umthetho ngokukhawuleza kwaye confidently, ngaphandle disappointing a beautiful stranger. Kungenjalo, yena uya ngokulula shiya kwaye kuqhubeka ngomhla wakhe indlela. Xa ndiya kuhlangana a kubekho inkqubela abo amaxabiso hayi kuphela ukuziphatha, kodwa kanjalo imbonakalo ye-boy. Kubalulekile hayi kuphela jonga intle, kodwa kanjalo ukuba abe coca kwaye kulungile-groomed. Thambileyo impahla kwaye imdaka izihlangu ingaba engathndwayo ukuba kukhokelela enjalo oyikhethileyo. Ukuba boy akusebenzi sazi njani ukuba ahlangane a kubekho inkqubela, lowo kufuneka ukusebenza ngomhla wokuqala isivakalisi. Oku kubalulekile, kuba lokuqala amazwi iya kuba ekuqaleni unxibelelwano. Okanye hayi ukuba guy ithi into stupid. Kwi road, girls rhoqo yokucinga kwabo, malunga abafazi, ngoko ke banako na ngoko nangoko siphendule isibheno kubo. Phambi nayo a stranger, kucetyiswa ukuba iyangxola ngaphandle zabo ncuma kwaye yenza iliso uqhagamshelane. Kuqala isivakalisi kufuneka njengoko kakuhle kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye malunga ezithile imigaqo: Ukuba boy ufuna ukuqonda njani ukufumana acquainted nge-girls, wathi ifuna ukufunda eyona nto: trust kwenu, unconsciously, i-interlocutor kufuneka ufumane iimpendulo imibuzo elandelayo: Ukuba kubekho inkqubela ingaba uqinisekile ukuba unxibelelwano ayisayi kubangela yakhe iingxaki, ke yena uya ngokuqinisekileyo a aph, energetic boy iya kuba umdla. Yena unako ukuthetha ngayo malunga endaweni yayo zokufunda okanye umsebenzi ngoko ke ukuba omnye umntu unako ukufunda kancinci kakhulu. Akuvumelekanga ngoko ke kubalulekile ukwazi, kulo naliphi na ityala, apho kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba isizathu yakho inzala waba kakhulu gca. Ukuba eyona elide imbono ka-unxibelelwano ayikho ukucela kubekho inkqubela ukuba ukutshaya a cigarette okanye cela into, ixesha yinto. Ideally-xa kubekho inkqubela ngu-xa kuqaliswayo ngendlela elungileyo isimo kwaye uphendula kakuhle jokes. Oku kuthetha ukuba yena liked lo mntu, kwaye wayengomnye ethanda zithungelana naye. Kodwa ukuze bonwabele oku impumelelo, kufuneka bazi ukuba akunjalo indlela kuhlangana a kubekho inkqubela kwaye constantly sebenza ngokwakho. Boys rhoqo ukufumana ezilahlekileyo kwi-kwiimeko apho kubekho inkqubela amabango zithungelana, kodwa kukho imiqondiso ebonakalayo uvelwano ezivelayo.

Ukuba stranger akusebenzi bonisa utshintsho lwendawo ngokwenqanawaname, kufuneka jonga inzala yayo.

Ndinovelwano uqinisekile, yena kufuneka andazi kuphela njani ukufumana ukwazi kubekho inkqubela kulungile, kodwa kanjalo ntoni ukwenza kwimeko yimpazamo.

Ukuba dibanisa isiphumo ingu hayi, kwaye kubekho inkqubela uqhubekeka zithungelana"yi-car", yindawo engcono ukuba end incoko, referring ukuba umsebenzi okanye urgency, kwaye ucele stranger kuba inombolo yefowuni.

Kwi ephikisana, kuya akufanele umbuzo, kodwa ingxelo.

I-young umntu kufuneka uqaphele ukuba uya kuba ndonwabe ukuqhubeka yakhe ulwazi imibulelo a Indebe ikofu. Mhlawumbi elandelayo xesha kubekho inkqubela iya kuba kwi-ngcono isimo, kwaye yena uya impendulo yakhe boyfriend. Ngoku young abantu kufuneka ukuchitha ezininzi ixesha kwi-Intanethi kwaye ezahlukeneyo loluntu networks.

Kulo mba, boys akufunekanga xana ukuba nkqu kukho uyakwazi kuhlangana girls.

Kodwa ukuba ulutsha abantu bacinga ukuba ngokwaneleyo ukuthumela lo myalezo kwaye kubekho inkqubela uqhubekeka zithungelana ngokukhawuleza, ngoko ke ndim ubhideke kakhulu. I-technique yokufumana acquainted kunye"VC"ngu iselwa intsonkothile, oko kuyimfuneko ukutsala ingqalelo kwaye beme ngaphandle ukusuka amakhulu ezinye iingxelo. Kubalulekile kuba okulungileyo umboniso. Asingabo bonke girls ufuna ukuphendula ukuba baya kuba akukho unye malunga ne-akhawunti umnikazi. Musa ukusebenzisa avatars kuba imifanekiso-bhanyabhanya iimpawu, le ndlela yokusebenza akusebenzi kukhokelela impumelelo inscriptions okanye imifanekiso izilwanyana. I kubekho inkqubela akusebenzi izwi, i-aura akusebenzi kuva, ngoko ke lokuqala impression yena uya kwenza kwi iifoto.

Icandelo"Malunga mna"kufuneka ingakumbi ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ingakumbi umdla boring imigca musa ukutsala ingqalelo.

Ungakhankanya iyakubethelela ukuba kufuneka yenzekile ebomini bakho, kwaye zichaza yakho imisetyenzana yokuzonwabisa kwaye imisetyenzana yokuzonwabisa.

Musa xana ukuba kuba uluvo humor, kodwa kakhulu kakhulu ukuya kakhulu ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ngaphandle impressing i-i-fool.

Ukuba ifomu ngu wazaliswa ngaphandle kwaye umfanekiso ikhethwe, ngoko unako ukuqalisa ukusebenza. Okokuqala, kufuneka khetha iphepha kubekho inkqubela abo baya kuba"victim". Wokuqala kwileta kufuneka zibhalwe ngendlela enjalo indlela okokuba attracts kwaye umdla Kuwe, kwi-unxulumano kunye umnqweno ukuqhubeka unxibelelwano.

Ukuba uyancuma njengoko yena ifunda umyalezo, impumelelo yeyona phantse kwenzeka.

Amagama angundoqo le uhlobo:"Molo, yintoni ufuna ukwenza oko? Molo, njani ingaba wena? Kuya kufuneka lisuswe Arsenal ngoko nangoko. Ezona ukuba uyakwazi kuzisa ufumana i-ephendula syllable, okuza kunzima kakhulu ukuphuhlisa umdla kwaye lively unxibelelwano. Umyalezo kufuneka consist eziliqela izivakalisi. Ukuba boy sele iingxaki isijamani, ngoko ke kubalulekile kukunceda kakhulu ngayo ukukhangela ngenyameko, ubuncinane okokuqala, ngoko ke, ukuba kukho akukho iimpazamo. Girls hayi kuphela laugh, kodwa kanjalo irritate kwaye repel. Yokufumana phandle ukuba yintoni ngcono ukubhala, kufuneka nzulu iphepha ekhethiweyo omnye, ukufunda yayo inkangeleko yayo, isimo. Uyakwazi rhoqo kuthi kakhulu malunga opinions, moods kunye nemvakalelo a kubekho inkqubela. Ukuba iphepha lemibuzo malunga uluhlu oyithandayo amaxwebhu, ubhale into efana"Molo, Fernández".

Kwi-befuna uxhulumaniso, ndaya kulo ndawo kwaye ifumanise oko.

Ndithanda ukuya amaxwebhu, mna mema ufuna ukuba amaxwebhu, kwaye ngoko uyakwazi kuba okumnandi iti kwi bar. Umbhalo, kunjalo, iyaguquguquka kuxhomekeke kubekho inkqubela kwi-hobby. Bekuya kuba mnandi emva phezulu amazwi enu kunye iifoto, ngoko ke ukuba ibali ikhangeleka plausible.

Ngoko ke kubekho inkqubela iya kuya iphepha kwaye bona a reliable umntu ukuba uyonwabele kunye nabahlobo kwaye uyakuthanda ubomi.

Rhoqo young abantu jika inani elingama-a psychologist kunye umbuzo:"ndiza besoyika ukuba ahlangane girls, ndenze ntoni?"Ukuba, ngokwemvelo, ezifana isipho ayikho, ngoko ke kuya kufuneka constantly shiya yakho intuthuzelo eselunxwemeni. Ngomhla wokuqala, cotton-iwulu iinyawo, ukwanda sweating kwaye stuttering kuya kwenza boy babe ngokupheleleyo numb, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha uya ukufunda ukulawula ezi iinkqubo kwaye andisayi panic.

Ukoyisa nayiphi na yakhe fears kwaye ubuthathaka yi inyathelo lesi-ngakulo inkululeko kwaye mna-ukukholosa.

Ukuqonda indlela kuhlangana girls, siqale ngokwakho.

Yonke imihla unxibelelwano noqeqesho kunye ezahluka-girls yindlela ukuba impumelelo.

Ukuba zithungelana ngaphezulu nge opposite sex, ufuna ukufumana motivating kwesizathu.

Musa flirt nabo bonke abantu abaqhelekileyo kwaye engaziwayo umbutho woomama, uyakwazi kuphela zithungelana kwi eyobuhlobo indlela. Ezinjalo unxibelelwano unako kanjalo kukunika isibindi kwaye kokuthenjwa yakho abilities. Ukuba unayo abancinane okanye akukho ulwazi njani ukufundisa boys ukusuka kwi-girls, ungasebenzisa esebenzayo emamele tactics. Kuyimfuneko ukuba buza ngakumbi imibuzo, apho kubekho inkqubela iya kuba ndonwabe ukuphendula.